About Bipolar Patient pushing
loved ones away
Firsthand experience of Bipolar :
My Boyfriend with BP is pulling away? What do I do?
Pushing me away, telling me things like “I don’t feel that I love you”, “This is my life, and I want to walk it alone”, “This has been an amazing adventure, but now its time to move on to my next”.He wants to be alone in his room all day, playing video games, because as he states “my reality is so much more imaginative and creative. In the real world there is no creativity”.
http://www.askabipolar.com/my-boyfriend-with-bp-is-pulling-away-what-do-i-do/
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How to present bipolar
pushing partner away
Pushing your partner away
Being in a relationship with someone who has
bipolar disorder can be confusing for the other partner — an up-and-down
roller-coaster ride. You may be
laughing and loving one day, and the next day depression may set in. Suddenly,
you're isolating yourself and pushing your partner away. You may
complain or be very easily irritated, says Tesar — in short, you may not always
be pleasant to be around.
http://www.everydayhealth.com/health-report/bipolar-depression/bipolar-disorder-and-relationships.aspx
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by dp33
» Fri Dec 17, 2010 6:14 pm
When someone is bipolar and untreated how can you
communicate with them and be friends? They are so unpredictable. They can be so amazingly nice one day
and throw you in the trash the next day. The automatic reaction is to
tell them off and never see them again for the rest of your life. I have seen
someone who would always lose friends and boyfriends because of her behavior .So
my question is what should you do? Do they really mean the things they say when
get angry? Which is the real person? The one that is nice and generous or the
one that gets angry and pushes you aside? In my situation my initial reaction
is to leave them and never talk to them again because they say hurtful things
but I can't. Is it good to just not talk to them for a while and then get back
to them later. Do they appreciate you still being friends or do they prefer
that you leave them and never bother them again?
http://www.psychforums.com/bipolar/topic57903.html
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Bipolar Disorder - Family Support
Video : 0:20 - 1:00
Wife of a Actor : Maurice
Benard, say about, He try to do everything he could to push her away.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WCsUJ380ww8
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Our Loved Ones
We can go off into a pit of depression,
pushing the entire world away from us. We don't want to see anyone, let alone
talk to anyone when we hit that depression hell. They
sometimes don't understand that it is the illness causing us to behave the way we do.
sometimes don't understand that it is the illness causing us to behave the way we do.
How do you explain something non-tangible
to another person? We get blamed of using our illness as an excuse to be well,
brats. Some BPers do this on purpose. But most of us do not. We don't want to
walk around crying at everything in sight.
http://bipolarworld.net/Storm/2001/storm5.htm
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Should I send this "closure" letter to my Bipolar
boyfriend? It's been 4 weeks.
I mean
honestly, would you be friends with someone who said this to your face... in a
five minute tirade:
1.
"You bought my friendship."
(how dare you say that to me. you're an unappreciative loser...with a false sense of entitlement)
2. "I'm glad we're not boyfriend/girlfriend."
(you're a vicious, mean, malicious, cruel person to say that to my face because i wouldnt have unprotected sex)
3. "I'd rather have a business relationship instead of your friendship."
(now you have neither....how ironic)
4. "I don't want you to move to flint, or follow me out-of-state."
(when i considered you my soul mate)
5. "I'm not your baby" (after I've been calling you my baby for months, & considered you one of my best friends)
6. "You're unstable for a relationship." (when you've had 12 relationships-of-the-month)
7. "You keep your eyes open when we kiss."
(the irony is you would have to keep YOUR eyes open to know that)
8. "I'll return your Christmas presents if you want me to." (why would you ever say that? that's not normal)
9. "I could care less about your birthday." (or valentines day apparently... plus you said you were going to give me all the sex i wanted on my birthday. how was i suppose to know your friendship wasn't sincere?)
10. "I'm going to f* as many people as I can "raw" if you date other people."
(how did that work out for you?)
11. "I'm not going to apologize, because I meant every single word."
(then we're no longer friends)
12. "You're the only one I'm chasing away."
(right....and those other 12 "relationships")
13. "You have to pay me $50 per hour in order to hang out."
(What the heck?? then never call or contact me again...and delete me)
14. "I'll even find someone else for you to date."
(sounds like you could care less if you lose me, after I treated you like gold)
16. "You should gain 30 pounds." (after i lost 50lbs)
17. "I don't need to impress you anymore since you're in love with me."
(you SOLD me your friendship)
(how dare you say that to me. you're an unappreciative loser...with a false sense of entitlement)
2. "I'm glad we're not boyfriend/girlfriend."
(you're a vicious, mean, malicious, cruel person to say that to my face because i wouldnt have unprotected sex)
3. "I'd rather have a business relationship instead of your friendship."
(now you have neither....how ironic)
4. "I don't want you to move to flint, or follow me out-of-state."
(when i considered you my soul mate)
5. "I'm not your baby" (after I've been calling you my baby for months, & considered you one of my best friends)
6. "You're unstable for a relationship." (when you've had 12 relationships-of-the-month)
7. "You keep your eyes open when we kiss."
(the irony is you would have to keep YOUR eyes open to know that)
8. "I'll return your Christmas presents if you want me to." (why would you ever say that? that's not normal)
9. "I could care less about your birthday." (or valentines day apparently... plus you said you were going to give me all the sex i wanted on my birthday. how was i suppose to know your friendship wasn't sincere?)
10. "I'm going to f* as many people as I can "raw" if you date other people."
(how did that work out for you?)
11. "I'm not going to apologize, because I meant every single word."
(then we're no longer friends)
12. "You're the only one I'm chasing away."
(right....and those other 12 "relationships")
13. "You have to pay me $50 per hour in order to hang out."
(What the heck?? then never call or contact me again...and delete me)
14. "I'll even find someone else for you to date."
(sounds like you could care less if you lose me, after I treated you like gold)
16. "You should gain 30 pounds." (after i lost 50lbs)
17. "I don't need to impress you anymore since you're in love with me."
(you SOLD me your friendship)
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Re: Should I send this "closure" letter to my Bipolar
boyfriend? It's been 4 weeks.
You have to understand that what your
boyfriend did is not his fault - or yours. It's something much
"bigger" and even though feel very left out, it's his bipolar that's
pushing you away and not him. Sure, a lot of people say that love conquers all
but we are not living in some movie or TV show.
http://www.healthboards.com/boards/bipolar-disorder/672972-should-i-send-closure-letter-my-bipolar-boyfriend-its-been-4-weeks.html
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Bipolar and relationships - Kerry's story
He is
however often the target of my frustrations, purely because I trust him more
than anyone else - ironic as it is
that the one's we love the most are the ones we push away- but he has
learnt not to take my negativity too personally. This took time, but only
because I spent so long in denial about being bipolar (about the first three
years of our relationship) that I wouldn't let him try and reason with me. I
can only imagine how frustrating, confusing and draining it must be for the
person on the receiving end of my mood swings.
http://www.mentalhealthy.co.uk/depression/bipolar/bipolar-and-relationships.html
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Do people with bipolar mean what they say when they are angry?
i have
bipolar disorder. it has severe effects on my life that I resent. for example I
am very in love with my exboyfriend, but im also enraged at the bad things hes
done to me and sacrafices ive made for him. usually my love for him prevented me from saying hurtful things to
him that express my hurt. but that part of my mind just isnt there at that
time. so when the bipolar episode passes and I realize I wish I hadnt hurt his
feelings its too late the damage is done. I finally appologized to him
and we arent together anymore. its tragic for me because I feel as if I wont be
able to have a healthy relationship with anyone because this disorder. its an
illness. I am ill. and I am emotionally dying from it. tragic.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20120707193526AA7T0n3
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If someone has bipolar disorder, does hs/she mean what he/she says to you?
One of my classmates has bipolar disorder, he
spoke a lot filthy language on my voicemail, and obviously he was in manic condition...
I just wonder that did he really mean to say that? Is there any meaning of what he said?
I just wonder that did he really mean to say that? Is there any meaning of what he said?
...
I know exactly how you feel my son has
bipolar and yes when in a manic state comes out with some strange things also
rude and aggressive words and they do know what they are saying but cant help
it it is in some cases part of the illness. And they are genuine when they say sorry I
heard my son tell the Dr over and over again he doesn't want to be like this it
was really sad.
http://www.mcrh.org/Bipolar-Disorder/172067.htm
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Q: how to keep bipolar wife from throwing away marriage
My
wife is bipolar. When she has an episode, she wants to get a divorce. She leaves the kids and myself and moves in with friends or more
often than not, her family. After months have gone by she will come around
mentally and we will get back together. She has just been released from an
involuntary stay in the phych ward and she has left us again. The thing is,
that the doctors seem to have made some real progress with her, ie. changed her
meds and took her off alot of meds that she was on. I love my wife very much
and want to save our marriage. Please help.
http://www.healthcentral.com/bipolar/c/question/84803/46808
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My husband is bipolar and wants a divorce.
My
husband has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder which causes him to make very
extreme decisions. He has currently decided he wants a divorce. We have started
to divorce process and are currently discussing a legal separation. I'm not sure of the separation could benefit me or not. We both
live in the same house which he wants me to move out of. He has taken
computers, blueray players, my computer, my ipad, etc out of the home. He has
stopped paying all the bills most of which are in my name. He has closed out
all the accounts and taken my name off the ones he has. I have absolutely zero
access to our money. We own a franchise which we have 18 of. However they are
not in my name so he feels I have no right to them or the money they are
making.
He has three kids from a previous marriage which I love as if they were my own. He has told me that I am hurting the kids by not moving out and being cooperative with the divorce. I believe right the opposite... the divorce is hurting the kids so I am trying to do everything I can to prevent this from happening. I genuinely believe his mental illness is causing him to feel this way and I am fighting for our marriage to work.
He has three kids from a previous marriage which I love as if they were my own. He has told me that I am hurting the kids by not moving out and being cooperative with the divorce. I believe right the opposite... the divorce is hurting the kids so I am trying to do everything I can to prevent this from happening. I genuinely believe his mental illness is causing him to feel this way and I am fighting for our marriage to work.
http://www.avvo.com/legal-answers/my-husband-is-bipolar-and-wants-a-divorce--979169.html
Bipolar wife wants a divorce
She's
threatened to leave before, but has never really done it. She usually changes
her mind after about a day. To make an example, 4 days ago she said we'd be
together forever. 2 days ago she said that she wants a divorce.
http://ojar.com/view_4554.htm
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